My Future Life Partner

I was recently advised by a dear childhood friend and happiness coach (ML) to list out the feelings and emotions I would like to have when being together with my future life partner, as a way of sending forth my desires to the universe, with the faith that the energy from my thoughts in this message shall be emitted and thus will be answered by Her, in order for me to meet him (if I have not done so already) and eventually be with him.

Another friend had referred to the Law of Attraction, while another reference “An Open Letter to My Future Husband”. In any case, this is me articulating my desires in this post; I am optimistic there is at least one man out there with a similar desire and with a wish list that fits me during this lifetime.

Dear Universe,

These are the following attributes (in no particular order) of feelings and emotions I would like to have when I am with my life partner: loved, safe, cherished, blissful, confident, proud/pride, happy, adventurous, joyful, passionate, secure, sated, accepted, relaxed, awed, interested, satisfied, comfortable, serene, tranquil, gratitude, hopeful, kind, affectionate, pleasurable, cheerful, euphoric, inspired, valued, respected, treasured, amused, beautiful, desirable.

I would like to have the above be reciprocal for him towards me too.

There are other secondary items in my predilection/wish list, such as a preference that he be tall (at least 5’11” and above), while in connection to me that he be kind, intelligent, dependable, generous, patient, understanding, appreciate art & literature, like dogs, enjoys traveling, is sexually compatible, does not snore too loudly and most importantly, able to get along with my parents (and family).

Last but not least, that both of us be in good health and able to enjoy a meaningful life together for a lengthy amount of time.

I express my desires to you, dear Universe, with love, accepting the outcomes you deign to bless me with. Thank you.

With humble gratitude; I believe!


My Future Life Partner

Darling, hold my hand?

The song “Hold my hand” by Jess Glynne has been dominating my thoughts of late, and I have found it to be uplifting, energizing and motivating. Coincidentally this song seems to be playing on the radio often and I have been humming along, singing the lyrics I know with gusto.

Living alone, I do not have someone here to ‘hold my hand’. So I decided to hug myself (telling myself it’s okay) and hold my own hands, clasping them together as I sing the chorus of this song.

I acknowledge to myself that I am a strong woman, who is able to encourage myself from a deep well of inner strength, and brave enough to reassure that me, myself and I are okay. Also, I believe that God is everywhere, so I am truly never alone. I am grateful that at times I am in the company of family and friends, who are there to hold my hand, albeit briefly. This song is a reminder that I am ready.

Ready for what, you ask?

Ready for amazing achievements this year. Ready for more joy, happiness, love and success. Ready for anything and everything. Ready for whatever my heart desires and my mind imagines to be possible, to come my way.

Are you ready too? If you need a hand, I am thrilled to offer you my (cyber) hand or hand in spirit, and give your hand a gentle squeeze.

I saw a delightful quote during the last days of December 2015, and think that it is a wonderful blessing to bestow, from one of the world’s greatest writers. This shall be something that I shall endeavor not only for 2016 but for every year to come. I hope that you will find inspiration in this too.


“May your coming year be filled with magic and dreams and good madness. I hope you read some fine books and kiss someone who thinks you’re wonderful, and don’t forget to make some art – write or draw or build or sing or live as only you can. And I hope, somewhere in the next year, you surprise yourself.”

~ Neil Gaiman

Darling, hold my hand?

Inner Strength

We all go through periods of self reflection from time to time. Life’s journey throws us the good and the bad; how we deal with it shapes us for who we are, our character, our inner strength.

The thing is, what do you think of when you are feeling down or depressed, when you are very sad, frustrated or feel that you are lost or at a cross road and find it difficult to make a decision? Do you have a reservoir of inner strength to draw upon, an anchor or talisman to keep you grounded during a storm? Would you be able to recognize a life line sincerely given to you by a friend or relative?

I believe that you would. I believe that we are capable of being stronger and wiser than we give ourselves credit for. Have an open heart and an open mind. Trust your instincts or inner voice. Trust in God. Believe in yourself and love yourself. Trust yourself to do the right thing, always. Live a life with no regrets; we all have regrets so my advice is to please learn to forgive yourself, leave those regrets behind and move on.

When I was in my late teens, my father gave me a plaque engraved with a quote, “Success is not about never falling down, it’s about getting back up again when you fall”. It was from sharing his own painful personal experiences that helped give me perspective of my own problems, and to understand how small my problem at the time was in relation to the problems of the world or truly challenging problems other people face. There is that well known saying, which still helps to ground me sometimes, that goes along the line of ‘one should not complain about one’s old shoes, when others have no feet’.

In my 20s, a friend (C) had shared the teachings of Buddha. I think the lesson of ‘not wanting/expecting more than you have, helps make you happy (or happier)’ has helped me be content with what I have. The green eyed monster seldom stirs (if it does it is often related to others enjoying exquisite food) and it amuses me when I witness others desperately trying to ‘keep up with the Joneses’. Perhaps it is a good thing I am quite the hippy at heart *grin*.

In my 30s, when I was unhappy in a relationship that eroded my self worth, another friend (YL) invited me to church. While I was familiar with God from my time in missionary school at a young age, getting “touched” by His love helped me believe in myself again, and to ultimately leave the man whom I knew deep down I had no fulfilling future with. I am always grateful for the salvation and strength that I have found from God.

Recently my friend (M) shared a quote from William H Murray to help inspire me. I hope that it will help inspire you too.

“This may sound too simple, but is great in consequence.
Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness.
Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too.
A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.
I learned a deep respect for one of Goethe’s couplets: Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it!”

Inner Strength